• 最近也来聊聊纽约月嫂这档事儿。在谷歌上看到很多关于月嫂阿姨的评价，真是两极分化严重。今天就来分享一下我自己的经历吧。

    第一位月嫂：看似完美但问题多多 🤰

    我们家的第一位月嫂阿姨，真的挺喜欢小孩子的，做事也利索，带孩子有经验，做饭还特别好吃。按理说，这样的阿姨应该很受欢迎吧？但实际只做了10天左右就下户了。

    除了前面提到的优点，阿姨的性格不太随和，难以适应家庭生活，还经常给雇主出难题。比如，她每天晚上8点到12点要连续休息4个小时，期间不允许打扰，晚上12点以后才照顾宝宝。白天还要抽空休息1-2个小时。虽然我们同意了，但后来发现很多阿姨其实可以24小时带娃，还会抽空补觉，不会长时间把孩子丢给爸妈。

    饮食要求：月子餐的纠结 🍲

    阿姨负责做月子餐，也同意多做一份给家属。她要求和宝妈同吃，包括月子汤和补品。家属出于关心，主张月子汤和补品应该留给宝妈多吃几顿，最后阿姨只得让步。家里吃饭难免有剩余，阿姨拒绝吃隔夜菜，于是把剩菜留在冰箱里不闻不问。后来在家属的强烈要求下才热一热摆到桌上，让家属吃。这让一家人都感觉十分别扭。

    红屁屁事件：小问题酿大矛盾 😣

    阿姨上户第三天，宝宝出现了红屁股，这让一家人都十分紧张。这算是阿姨工作的失误，前三天并没有主动给宝宝洗过屁股预防尿布疹。之后每次宝宝哭闹全家都跑去围观，确认屁屁洗干净。用了护臀膏，换了更透气的尿不湿之后，不出几天就痊愈了。但这也埋下了不放心的种子。阿姨虽然很有经验，但显得并没有特别上心。

    出难题：矛盾的爆发 💣

    前面的问题，其实都是小问题。但是小问题积累起来，让家属对阿姨越发不放心。越是不放心，越是管的多，进而矛盾也日益增加。就在爸爸两周陪产假结束，回去上班的第一天，阿姨提出了辞职并且要当天下工，留下一个剖腹产两周的妈妈和一个手脚不灵便的姥姥独自带娃。这个时间选择令人十分崩溃，基本上到此为止，之前对阿姨留下的好印象稀碎。

    总的来说，选月嫂真的是一门学问，希望我的经历能给大家一些参考。

    I'm also sharing my experience with confinement nannies in New York City. I've seen so many reviews of confinement nannies on Google, and they're incredibly polarized. Today, I'd like to share my own experience.

    The first confinement nanny: Seemingly perfect, but full of problems 🤰

    Our first confinement nanny really loved children, was efficient, had experience with children, and cooked delicious meals. Logically, she should have been very popular, right? But she only worked for about 10 days before being released.

    Besides the aforementioned strengths, the nanny's personality wasn't very easygoing, making it difficult for her to adapt to family life and often creating challenges for her employer. For example, she had to take a four-hour break from 8 PM to 12 AM every night, with no interruptions allowed. She only cared for the baby after midnight, and she also had to take a one- to two-hour break during the day. While we agreed to this, we later discovered that many nannies can actually care for our children 24 hours a day, taking in some sleep, and not leaving them with us for long periods of time.

    Dietary Requirements: The Confusion of Postpartum Meals 🍲

    The nanny was in charge of preparing the postpartum meals and agreed to make an extra portion for the family. She requested to eat with the mother, including the postpartum soup and supplements. The family, out of concern, insisted that the soup and supplements be reserved for the mother for several meals, and the nanny finally relented. Since family meals inevitably have leftovers, the nanny refused to eat leftovers, so she left them in the refrigerator unattended. Only after the family's insistence did she heat them up and serve them on the table. This left the family feeling very awkward.

    Diaper Rash Incident: A Small Issue Leads to a Big Conflict 😣

    On the third day of the nanny's stay, the baby developed a diaper rash, which made the family extremely nervous. This was the nanny's fault; she hadn't proactively washed the baby's bottom for the first three days to prevent diaper rash. After that, every time the baby cried, the whole family would rush over to make sure the baby's bottom was clean. After using diaper cream and switching to a more breathable diaper, the rash healed within a few days. But this sowed the seeds of worry. Although the nanny was very experienced, she didn't seem particularly attentive.

    Problem: Conflict Erupts 💣

    The previous issues were actually minor. But as they accumulated, they made the family increasingly uneasy about the nanny. The more uneasy they became, the more involved they became, and the conflicts escalated. On the first day after the father's two-week paternity leave ended and he returned to work, the nanny resigned and quit that very day, leaving a mother two weeks after a C-section and a grandmother with limited mobility to care for the baby alone. The timing was incredibly frustrating, and basically ended there, shattering my previously positive impression of the nanny.

    In short, choosing a confinement nanny is a real skill, and I hope my experience can provide some valuable insights for others.